Wednesday, July 3

words for wednesday {page 10, advice}

Weeds are flowers too, once you get to know them.”
A.A. Milne

“The best way out is always through.”

Robert Frost

Last week had some tears because I had a difficult conversation with someone who implied that I needed to do more ‘spiritually’ to get better, and who thought if I believed I was better I would be. Sometimes I have a sad week because I’ve told someone that we can’t catch up and they ignore it or off handedly ‘forgive’ me for the inconvenience I’ve caused them.  But the experience last week was worse because it made me so frustrated to think that some people don’t see that tough things can bring about good, that they don’t all go away fast and its part of the grand plan not a failing on the sufferer’s part.

Having CFS is horrendous at times, I cannot recommend the experience – my tissue box knows that I have plenty of ‘why me, what happened to my life?’ sessions.  But right alongside that grief, I also see that incredible good has come out of these years and I’m quite ok with the way it has shaped me and changed the way I live.  

Last week I was wishing for compassion and empathy rather than advice or rejection.

I wish we could crawl along with people in their lows as readily as we’ll party with them over their highs. 

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”

Helen Keller

I wonder, is overcoming suffering being freed from it or going through it well?


  1. Thank you for posting, lovely :-) I totally understand about friends just not getting it and making you feel bad about not having the energy to catch up :-( It's hard. I've been wondering about the "suffering" thing too ... God has been teaching me so much during this season, things that I never would have learnt while I was well. Although it's SUPER hard at times, it has also been a real blessing in many ways. K enough rambling from me! I hope you have a beautiful day x

    1. Thankyou :-) the people side of this thing is definitely hard. But I guess learning to care less of their opinions is just another thing we get to take out of this. I'm so glad you can see the good of this yuckiness too! You take care xx

  2. i don't know why people have to take it down to a "you're doing this wrong!" level :( i think it's the only thing they have left to say when they realise you're not getting better. it's good to see the good in your sickness though - it makes things a little more bearable to see how you've grown and developed in your faith :) thinking of you xx

    1. Yep, I reckon they are trying to be caring and just don't realise how it feels on the recieving end! Thanks sis xx